A Matchmaker Helped Us Explore Female-Privileged & Loving Cuckolding Relationships

When you live an unconventional life, explaining it to people who don’t understand can be the most exhausting part. And really, who among us really lives an entirely “conventional” life, whatever that means?

Each relationship has its own dynamic, and some people know what they’re looking for while they date. If you’re the kind of person who knows exactly what you want, then matchmaking is a great way of finding it.

When you Google “matchmaker,” you’ll find plenty of options for experienced, top-notch professionals. But, a majority of matchmaking services aren’t geared toward people living outside of the box, and, frankly, finding a compatible, unconventional match can be tricky.

Venus Connections is a matchmaking service designed for men and women seeking female-privileged and loving cuckolding relationships. 

Female-privileged relationships, sometimes called female-led relationships, are heterosexual relationships where women take on more responsibility and decision-making power. The CEO of Venus Connections, podcast host, and matchmaker extraordinaire Venus created the platform to serve men and women looking to explore and embrace 

Venus is a podcast host, matchmaker, and the CEO of Venus Connections. She created the platform using her own experience and expertise in female-privileged and loving cuckolding relationships to bring men and women together for the kind of relationships that set their hearts on fire.

Venus filled us in on female-privileged relationships, the different types of cuckolding relationships, and the relationship dynamics she caters to in her matchmaking service. 

“I was single and wanted a cuckolding relationship,” Venus told us. “I had such an awful experience with dating for so many years that I wanted somebody else to create a service like this. When they didn’t, I didn’t want to waste my time anymore. So I decided to do it.”

Matchmaking for Loving Female-Led Relationships

Venus told us she never set out to form a business helping people find healthy and loving female-privileged relationships. She was just trying to find her own way in dating while seeking a female-privileged dynamic.

“This wasn’t a business plan,” she told us. “I was wasting time dating, and I got so frustrated that something like this didn’t exist.”

Venus knew what she wanted, but when she looked for matchmakers or other dating professionals who could help her make it happen, she didn’t turn up many leads. At this point, Venus had been exploring cuckolding relationships for nearly five years.

In other words: her interest was nothing new, and she was ready to find something fulfilling.

“I would complain to my friends, and they were just like, ‘Why don’t you do it yourself?’” Venus said. “At first, I was worried about finding enough women to make a matchmaking service possible.”

But, one of Venus’s friends reminded her of something very important. If anybody was going to be able to make a female-privileged and cuckold relationship matchmaking service, it was her. Venus developed her matchmaking approach, and in 2021, Venus Connections was established. 

From the start, Venus focused on privacy and efficacy. She wanted her platform and process to reap real results, but she wanted the process to remain confidential, secure, comfortable, and, perhaps most importantly, full of all the things that can make traditional dating fun.

“I wanted it to have different components and a real level of privacy. So many people don’t want it out there that they’re seeking this kind of relationship,” Venus said. “But I also wanted it to have an education component, so everyone who enters the program has to complete a few courses.”

The way Venus sees it, education about female-privileged relationships and cuckolding are essential to ensuring strong relationships within the dynamic. Venus created her own podcast, called the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast, to talk about all things female-privileged relationships, cuckolding, and more.

“I’m so glad I took the leap,” Venus said. “As soon as I started, I realized how needed this service is. It’s the only matchmaking service of its kind in the world, that I know of.”

Venus Explores Female-Privileged Relationships and Cuckolding

Venus Connections serves men and women looking for two distinct relationship types, but Venus told us all clients begin at the same spot before moving along in the matchmaking process. All clients begin with educational courses, to make sure everyone is on the same page about definitions and expectations.

When Venus first started making matches on her platform, she was catering to singles looking for non-monogamous cuckolding relationships. In this dynamic, women have a primary romantic and intimate partner while pursuing sexual relationships with men outside of the relationship.

“At first, it was for single men and single women who are looking for a real, loving cuckolding relationship, which is a one-sided, open relationship where she gets to have extra fun,” Venus explained. “And they both love it that way.”

Venus found a lot of success in her first couple of years and decided to expand her reach. Along with serving people desiring cuckolding relationships, she also decided to offer matchmaking for men and women seeking female-privileged relationships. 

Female-privileged relationships are in the same ballpark as loving cuckold relationships. However, in female-privileged relationships, the couple is entirely monogamous. The woman takes on more of a leadership role in the relationship, and, just as with cuckolding dynamics, both of them love it.

Venus Connections offers two distinct matchmaking programs, and you can choose which path is best for you based on the kind of relationship you’re looking for. Venus makes every match herself, and she told us first dates are always blind and done through a video call.

While sugar baby dating can have some overlap with female-privileged relationships, Venus said they’re two entirely different things. In fact, the sugar baby dating scene has complicated some aspects of female-privileged and loving cuckolding dating.

“On regular dating sites, people searching for female-privileged relationships often attract women who are seeking a financial aspect,” Venus explained. “Some guys really seek that out and love it, but there’s also a ton of guys who don’t want that, and are looking for a real relationship.”

Female-privileged relationships aren’t sugar baby relationships, but more people are seeking sugaring arrangements online than seem to be searching for female-privileged dynamics. 

Venus vets each of her clients personally through a video call to make sure they know what they want in a relationship and are familiar with female-privileged and cuckolding dynamics.

Prioritizing Women’s Safety, Privacy, and Comfort

During the initial video call, Venus gets to know her clients’ personalities, how they present themselves, and whether they’re fully comfortable with and excited about the dynamics they’re seeking. By meeting every client herself, Venus ensures a top-tier dating pool.

When Venus begins the matchmaking process with a client, she has them fill out a detailed questionnaire. “This tells me a little bit about them and also gives me an idea of what aspects are must-haves for them, and what aspects are dealbreakers,” she said. “This is the most important thing for me.”

With the hard yeses and nos figured out, Venus can begin searching her database and compiling promising leads. She uses software to help her get with potential introductions and then goes through the suggested profiles by hand. “It’s an art form,” she told us.

The safety and privacy of all of her clients are important to Venus. She told us she has several systems in place to keep everyone on her platform safe. The first layer of protection is Venus’s matchmaking guidelines, which all clients agree to.

“They are strict,” Venus said. “And that’s because I have really high expectations of both the men and women in the program. There are things they absolutely must do. They have to be on time. They have to put forth effort. They have to appreciate the process and be happy to be here.”

Venus said those are the basics, and if you’re not ready to show up as your best, then you probably aren’t quite ready for matchmaking. Along with these guidelines, Venus stays strict about the tone of her clients’ conversations.

“I don’t want them to be talking about cuckolding, kink, fantasy, or anything bedroom-related on the first or second dates,” Venus said. “It may seem weird, but I do it on purpose.”

Throughout her years in the scene, Venus got a lot of feedback from women who said the same things about relationships that jumped head-first into their sexual dynamic without figuring out the emotional one first.

“In my experience and the experience of women I’ve talked to, when the conversation is centered around sex from the beginning, it erodes the relationship-building process,” Venus said. Venus Connections brings people together for committed relationships– it’s not just about the sex.

Venus said female-privileged relationships are about empowering women, and her process is aiming to do the same thing. 

“You can have the ability to ask for whatever you want and get whatever you want,” Venus said. “As women, we’re usually not given that. With this dynamic, you’re given the permission to want what you want, and be celebrated for it.”