The Scoop: Personal Dating Assistants is a niche dating service with a simple mission: Make online dating easier for men. The company employs trained dating experts who know how to navigate online dating and attract messages and dates. Matthew Valentines founded Personal Dating Assistants to help men take advantage of modern dating tools and successfully win people over online. Today, the company has become a go-to resource for men wondering what to say, how to act, and where to go to find a date in the online dating scene.

Online dating can be a major time suck for singles. According to a study on online dating, the average online dater spends 5.2 hours a week looking for matches and 6.7 hours a week writing and responding to messages. Here’s the kicker: These hardworking singles spend less than two hours a week actually going on offline dates.

So, after investing nearly half a day building relationships, online daters end up with maybe one coffee date. That’s not an acceptable trade-off for singles who have part-time or full-time jobs as well as active social lives to maintain. For many working professionals, online dating simply isn’t worth the time investment, which is why some dating professionals have shouldered the burden and offered to do the legwork it takes to land a date online.

Matthew Valentines, Founder of Personal Dating Assistants, understands the challenges faced by modern online daters (particularly men), and he has made it his mission to do something about it. His company has become a leading online dating service for men in need of a wingman on OkCupid, Tinder, Match, or other popular platforms.

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Personal Dating Assistants has developed hands-on services to make online dating easier.

“Online dating gets harder every year,” he said. “The main reason we have a business is because online dating for the average man is exceptionally difficult. He has to send over a dozen emails just to get one response. It’s a fiercely competitive environment.”

The service Personal Dating Assistants provides appeals to today’s singles because it limits the amount of time getting a date and maximizes the amount of time going on a date. The coaches can teach men what to say and how to say it, so they quickly up their response rates and attract quality women online.

“Our goal remains delivering the best outsourced dating assistant service in the world,” Matthew said. “Getting success online can take guys hours amounting to a part-time job, just to get a shot with the more attractive women online. We solve all of that problem.”

Expert Consultants Give Personalized Tips to Single Men

Personal Dating Assistants appeals primarily to busy, successful men between the ages of 24 and 48. These guys want to master online dating and save themselves a lot of time, stress, and uncertainty, so they turn to the experts for guidance. The team can provide picture analysis, profile editing, dating site recommendations, message reviews, and username creation. They’re there to answer basically any questions an online dater could possibly have and provide specific tips proven to be successful.

“We do things differently from other professional dating services. For example, every introduction message we send is tailored to the women in question,” Matthew said. “We never copy/paste. As a result, we get lots more dates for our members.”

New clients typically spend an hour talking to a personal consultant on the phone. The goal for the team is to get to know everything they can about their clients — from their likes to their dating history — so they know how to present that person in a positive and authentic light. Based on their conversations, the consultant devises a detailed profile and messaging strategy for the client.

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An array of concierge coaching services help single men get fast results on a dating site or app.

Next, PDA refers the client to a professional photographer who can take high-quality photos to spruce up a dating profile. Then it’s time for the messaging to begin, and PDA is all over it.

“Once we’ve optimized his profile and pictures, the personal dating assistant starts on his messaging campaign,” Matthew explained. “Our outbound messaging is a very light touch. Just enough to signal interest and go through the motions common to all online interactions.”

The team handles everything going into and out of the dating profile’s inbox. They usually send three to five messages to a potential match and then, if she seems interested, asks for a phone number, which they pass along to the client. Guys can usually take it from there and set up the date.

Personal Dating Assistants is there for the client throughout the dating process. The journey isn’t over after the first date, so coaches make themselves available to answer the question, “What do I do now?” The dating coaches support online daters on everything from what to text a new love interest to how to keep the spark alive in a new relationship.

Building a Reputation as an Educational Resource & Coach

Personal Dating Assistants is a go-to resource for single men struggling to attract attention on a dating site or app. There are many benefits to having an online dating wingman. These coaches can provide introductory lessons to get newcomers up to speed and manage the account to save active daters valuable time.

“A Personal Dating Assistant is a hybrid mash-up of more traditional, old school dating service types — like matchmaking, and date coaching,” Matthew said, “but it’s designed to be effective in our current online dating environment.”

Additionally, the website is an informational resource in its own right. The site offers easy-to-read advice articles as well as personalized consultations to meet the needs of ingles in all kinds of dating scenarios.

It should come as no surprise that Personal Dating Assistants has some enthusiastic reviews from men who have gained confidence and found love thanks to the company’s practical guidance.

“A brilliant service!” said Tansel. “My assistant (Kayla) wrote me a profile that just blew my mind, and, within the first few weeks, I had gone from having no dates to an average of two to three dates a week!”

Some clients admitted being initially hesitant or skeptical about the dating service — until PDA’s hands-on support changed their minds.

“At first, I was reluctant to try it,” said Jordan in a five-star review, “but after reading a bit, I actually realized I was spending half my life [on online dating], and failing anyway. My time is way more valuable. I pay someone else to do my other chores.”

PDA Trains Singles to Take Advantage of Today’s Tools

Although daters have plenty of technological tools at their fingertips, they aren’t guaranteed to be successful the moment they sign up for a dating site or app. They need to develop the communication skills to woo someone via text. They need to understand how to put together an attractive dating profile and find compatible date prospects as efficiently as possible. Not everyone can spare hours upon hours of their lives learning how to online date — and that’s why Personal Dating Assistants has been so popular among working professionals in the dating scene.

This online dating service is a practical, time-saving tool that promises immediate results on any dating platform. Many single men like the idea of having a wingman by their side as they swipe, chat, and plan dates because it gives them confidence that they’re going to be successful.

As the dating scene evolves, it helps singles to have an expert who understands all the ins and outs. The Personal Dating Assistants team always keep an eye on the latest trends in online dating so the coaches can better inform and advise clients on how to make a match that leads to an irl date.

“I honestly wish this sort of business wasn’t needed, but this is where we’re at in our current online dating zeitgeist,” Matthew said. “I’m looking forward to the next disruption with eager eyes. Whatever it is, we’ll adapt to doing what we do best — helping people put their best foot forward and curating the connection process.”

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