The Scoop: Lisa Concepcion named her coaching practice LoveQuest Coaching because her goal is to support people on their journey to love. Lisa works with singles and couples who face a variety of challenges in their personal lives. She helps her clients identify their relationship needs, learn healthy strategies to resolve conflict, and manifest the life they deserve. Lisa is a highly hands-on life and relationship coach who mentors her clients in one-on-one sessions and via text, voice memo, and phone calls.
At age 44, Lisa Concepcion was at a crossroads in her life and searching for answers about why she and her husband couldn’t make things work. She said it took going through a divorce for her to fully understand her own heart and relationship needs.
Lisa basically conducted a post-mortem on her marriage and consulted with therapists and relationship coaches to figure out what went wrong. Eventually, she discovered that her issues stemmed from codependency.
Codependent relationships occur when one or both partners surrender their emotional needs and lose the ability to function independently and rely on external validation and conditions to be favorable in order to feel safe, secure, and at peace.
Lisa said that description sums up the way she showed up in her marriage. She was living an external, conditional life she also was unable to identify and name her own feelings. She was emotionally stunted due to a perception that she needed to “be good” as a child to her divorced parents and stepparents and other adults in her life. This led Lisa to depend on her husband for stability, clear rules, groundedness, security, worthiness, and identity.
“Codependence means you’re completely programmed to seek approval from others’ opinions. It creates a detachment from yourself,” she told us.
After this epiphany, Lisa continued her quest for answers. She wanted to know why her relationship went wrong and what she could do to improve. Her therapist at the time recommended she look into becoming a professional counselor or life coach. The therapist said Lisa seemed to have a knack for such work.
“She told me, ‘I’m amazed by the depth you go into. You go into all corners of your psyche and make interesting connections. It’s like I’m talking to a peer,’” Lisa recalled.
In 2015, Lisa went full force into the coaching space and became a certified Life Coach through the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching. She has since been endorsed by the International Coaching Federation.
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Lisa built her coaching business by being approachable. When she was going through her divorce, she posted daily entries to her online diary, which she called the 90-Day Divorce Detox. Each day, she published a video that discussed what she was going through as a divorced woman.
“I was changing my life and adapting to a new normal,” she said. “I shared everything I learned, and people private messaged me, and wanted to pay me. I was like, I think I have a business here.”
Lisa started LoveQuest Coaching to help singles like her find their own happily-ever-after endings. Unlike in traditional therapy, Lisa doesn’t limit client communication to one of their private sessions. Her coaching is an immersive journey meaning Lisa grants clients access to her via text, social media, and helpful audio voice clip exchanges.
“In the dating and relationship space, people learn as they grow,” she pointed out. “Sometimes I’ll have a client call me and say, ‘My ex-boyfriend texted me, what should I do?’ They can screenshot the message, send it to me, and then we’ll center our session around that.”
Lisa’s individual and group coaching programs are infused with spirituality and intuition. Her programs challenge clients to discover the truth about themselves and their relationships.
Lisa shows up for her clients and helps them work through their issues in real time. Her assistance has led to some beautiful moments of personal growth and reconnection.
When asked about her favorite success stories, Lisa told us about a woman in her 60s who had gotten divorced over a decade ago but was hesitant to date again. The woman had reinvented her life by diving into a different career and traveling more often. She found joy in her independence, but she needed help finding a new companion to share her life with.
“After working with me for 90 days, she felt lighter and more available to call in that great man. Soon after, she meets this wonderful man, and they hit it off,” said Lisa.
Lisa’s Clients are Successful and Ambitious
Most of Lisa’s clients have wonderfully rewarding professional lives. They’re at the top of their field, and they know their business well. However, success in the professional world does not always easily translate to success in the dating world. These highly capable individuals may be at a loss when it comes to building a healthy relationship or discovering the mysteries of their own hearts.
For instance, Lisa said she often hears single men and women say that no date prospect meets their standards. Sometimes the issue could be that their standards are a bit too high and unrealistic, and other times it could be that they’re mingling in the wrong circles.
Lisa has also worked with couples who have neglected their relationship because they’re overburdened by other commitments in their lives.
“All of my clients want to remap their lives and transform their lives,” Lisa said. “When you commit to cleaning up what’s throwing you off, it trickles into all aspects of your life. You just feel so good with that energy.”
One of the challenges couples often face is setting boundaries. During the COVID-19 pandemic, these boundaries may have broken down completely as work spaces, school spaces, and home spaces collide.
Lisa advises couples to set up spatial boundaries in their homes whenever and wherever possible. It’s important for partners to give each other their space.
“I’ve been getting into conscious communication and boundaries,” Lisa explained. “If you’re both working from home, one person should work out of the bedroom and the other person should work in the office. That way, they look forward to spending time together, rather than seeing each other all the time.”
Lisa shared an example of a couple she coached through a trying time in their relationship. They were arguing often and losing their connection to one another.
“They wanted to neutralize co-dependency and make sure they weren’t making one partner be different. They wanted to get back to what they had in common,” Lisa said.
Lisa worked with the couple and gave them exercises to help them heal their hurts and rediscover their purpose. Now, the couple is back on the same page. They report that the energy is lighter in their home and family.
Lisa Concepcion: Coaching is a Spiritual Calling
Lisa has asked singles and couples to reexamine what they want without getting distracted by what they think they should want, what their family or friends want, or even what their partner wants. As a life coach, she prompts her clients to create a vision for their life and then take steps to manifest that vision.
With a focus on conscious communication, Lisa guides her clients to take a breath, ground themselves, and answer the questions that matter most in life.
“I can shift their energy with a voice clip,” Lisa told us. “People often know what they want, and they just need permission to discover it.”
After leaving a codependent marriage, Lisa found her own calling by asking herself the same questions she now asks her clients in life coaching sessions. She said she never would’ve imagined herself starting a business like LoveQuest Coaching, but she is grateful to be able to help so many singles and couples build more meaningful connections.
Lisa said her path became clear to her during a moment of clarity after her divorce. She said she was feeling at her lowest and berating herself with negative self-talk when divine inspiration struck. “God said, ‘Get it together, girl, because you’re going to change the world,'” Lisa recalled. “I see my coaching as a divine assignment to help others.”