The Scoop: After suffering through a string of bad relationships, some singles may start to wonder what exactly they’re doing wrong and what they can do to change. These wounded individuals may not have all the answers, and that’s why they turn to seasoned relationship coach Dave Elliott of Legendary Love for Life. With decades of experience behind him, he succinctly gets to the heart of interpersonal issues while guiding his clients toward healthy and secure relationships. He has developed life-changing self-help programs, led seminars on four continents, and written a book about attraction in his efforts to inform and motivate people around the world. In the next year, Dave plans to publish a book detailing client’s greatest success stories and his takeaways on what makes a legendary love last.
As a relationship coach, Dave Elliott doesn’t stick with superficial tips. He digs down to reach the underlying causes and emotional blockages that are holding his clients back. He believes you can’t heal a wound until you identify where it’s coming from, so he focuses on self-improvement techniques in therapeutic programs with step-by-step guidance.
His core message is that the pain of a failed relationship can be a good thing. It doesn’t have to torture singles; in fact, those painful experiences can teach them how to improve themselves, which can help them heal.
Dave went through that healing process himself when his first marriage ended in divorce in 1999. His path of self-discovery and awakening led him to meet his soul mate, Katrina. They’re now married and travel the world giving motivational speeches and workshops.
In addition to his coaching, Dave is currently penning a new book that will share his methods when identifying and dealing with issues in someone’s dating past, present, or future. His compassionate assistance empowers singles to pursue the healthy, happy relationships they deserve.
Dave told us many daters fall into a pattern of attracting partners who, in one sense, are utterly wrong for them. This happens because their mutual unfinished business from childhood creates an attraction to re-trigger those unresolved wounds, which can potentially heal them — if they’re aware. But most are not. According to Dave, when an individual has unresolved relationship issues, he or she can become a magnet for other wounded or disempowered people. “Empowered people attract empowered partners,” he said. “Empowered partners employ empowered strategies. Empowered strategies and awareness will have you show up differently so that you can finally resolve those same old issues for good.”
With Dave’s help, singles can transform their lives and become more effective and confident daters and transform their lives at the same time.
“I believe more love is the answer to just about any problem facing us today,” he said. “It is an honor and a privilege to get to help contribute to that. Perhaps the very best part of my job is that I get to live vicariously through the huge successes of my clients as I celebrate their various victories, healings, marriages, and yes, even babies!”
Focused on Breaking Self-Sabotaging Patterns
Dave wrote his first book, “The Catch Your Match Formula,” to outline his trademarked system to finding a lasting love via online dating. The book focused on how to write the an effective dating profile that will get results, and the proof is in the performance. Already, there are multiple true-life testimonials from readers who’ve become believers. Some report being inundated with responses as soon as they revised their profiles according to Dave’s Formula. Others have met high-quality matches who became their spouses.
His second book will shift from explaining dating tactics to exploring the inner motivations behind attraction that can either lead to further wounding or complete healing. The new book will bring to light the hidden wounds that keep singles struggling to maintain good relationships. Dave’s book will give readers the tools and awareness to resolve these issues for good.
“The book is all about why people keep running into the same issues again and again,” he said. “Even though the individuals involved may seem totally different and unrelated each time, upon deeper reflection, they see they are not.”
Dave told us there are no accidents when it comes to relationships. When you finally become aware of your own hidden patterns, your chances of success rise dramatically. People like to think that their relationship issues stem from their partners, but Dave points out the one common denominator in all your relationships is you — so that’s ultimately where all the issues originate.
While that may seem disheartening at first, it’s actually not because the one thing you can reliably change in this world is yourself. Most people tend to focus on trying to change others, though that seldom works long term. In the book, Dave talks about why individuals have to look at the unhealthy relationships they’re attracting and discover what lessons they need to draw from the experiences.
One chapter of Dave’s book describes his experience working with a client who had abandonment issues and faced rejection repeatedly from her parents, boyfriends, a fiance, and even a business partner. On the surface, these circumstances seemed unrelated, but they weren’t. They stemmed from the fears and insecurity she brought to her relationships.
“Every single time, her experience was that whenever you open your mouth and speak your truth, you get abandoned and suffer massive pain,” he explained. “Obviously, that is not an accurate or helpful interpretation — but it’s been more than enough to make her pull back, fear relationships, and even sabotage them first.”
By helping her see this unconscious pattern, Dave has helped her to make progress and address the underlying issues holding her back. Just like it’s almost impossible to hit a target you can’t see, it’s just as difficult to attempt to resolve a problem you don’t see.
Once Singles Take Responsibility, They Get Better Results
Time and time again, Dave has seen his coaching work wonders. He has watched singles transform their love lives and become happier as a result of working with him and taking his advice to heart. His Very Satisfied Client Club is filled with testimonials from clients who have transcended their own past relationship struggles and created touching love stories that led to marriage.
Dave told us a story about one man struggling to make a relationship work with an emotionally damaged woman who had some aspects of multiple personality disorder. “Once I helped him turn his view from mitigating her behaviors and begin to take responsibility for his own role in attracting and maintaining that, we were able to make some huge, life-changing shifts,” he said.
The man soon met an emotionally stable partner who was a much better fit for him, and they’re now happily married.
“I am eternally grateful for Dave’s coaching. He gave me insight into how I was sabotaging myself in relationships in the past. Now my husband and I could not be happier.” — Becky R.
Dave is the kind of coach who specializes in helping his clients make game-changing shifts so their dating lives are never the same. Sometimes small tweaks can make a big difference over the short term, but more substantial global shifts tend to stand the test of time. Plus, Dave has seen many of his clients so inspired by their own changes that they decide to get trained and go into coaching themselves.
As a result of Dave’s latest book, now in progress, he’s made a unique offer to singles everywhere. “While I am working on this book, I want to work with new clients who are absolutely serious about healing their root issues and attracting a love of their life,” he said. “I want to continue to develop and refine best practices, so if your love life has seemed like one setback after another, and you are still absolutely committed to change, I want to speak with you.”
Anyone can reach out to Dave by emailing [email protected] He often posts inspirational success stories on his website to show prospective clients the changes they can expect if they’re open to learning love’s most crucial lessons.
Expanding His Influence on a Global Scale
Dave specializes in helping women learn to understand men and bring out the best in them — rather than suffering through the worst from them. He gives his clients a greater appreciation of all the work that goes into relationships, and he breaks down everything they need to know in simple, effective, and memorable suggestions.
In the last year, Dave has seen more male clients turning to him for insight on what women are looking for and how to get in a relationship. He said taking on single men has been a fun challenge that has led to more marriages and success stories.
His clientele has also become increasingly diverse. In recent years, Dave has worked with a number of clients from India who live in the United States, and he has gotten pretty well-versed in the specific challenges unique to them. He’s had a great deal of success helping clients navigate particularly difficult situations like arranged marriages, family pressures, and cultural norms when it comes to romance.
Dave’s dating and relationship advice has cross-cultural appeal and has been valuable to people of all backgrounds. He and his wife travel the world to spread their message of love and understanding. In 2017, they conducted a seminar in Medellin, Colombia, which marked the fourth continent they’ve visited as professional motivational speakers.
“The only remaining continents where we haven’t yet delivered our message in person are Asia, Africa and Antarctica,” he said, “so those are definitely on the goal list.”
Dave Paves the Way to Legendary Love
Rather than treating dating symptoms, Dave looks for the deeper insecurities and fears causing issues between romantic partners. He has empowered his clients to make instrumental changes in their lives by identifying what’s going wrong in themselves and making corrections.
Dave endeavors to change hearts and minds through his instructive programs, speaking engagements, and published works. His ability to see past the superficial and speak to the essential drives in human relationships has given clients the knowledge they need to improve in meaningful ways. Today, he is a trusted authority for hundreds of singles hoping to heal and grow.
“My mission statement is — and remains — very simple and specific,” he said. “Together, my wife and I are committed to traveling the world to teach and speak as we touch, move, and inspire others to create even more love and understanding in the world, one person or couple at a time.”