Everyone handles the end of a relationship differently. Some of us like to get back on the horse by jumping right into a rebound. Others dive into elaborate self-care rituals with the hope that they’ll help soothe emotional pain.

If you’re anything like me, you become hesitant in the wake of a breakup. Unanswerable questions run through my head. Why did this happen? Where did I go wrong? What if we’re supposed to be together, and I screwed it up?
Maybe these questions aren’t as unanswerable as they seem. The world (and the internet) is full of breakup experts who have dedicated their careers to helping people overcome heartbreak. From TikTok therapists to dating coaches to insightful podcast hosts, a breakup expert can come from anywhere. These 10 experts just happen to be among the best of the best. With their guidance, broken hearts don’t have to stay broken forever.
Jeff Guenther | Sierra & Sam | Claire Byrne | Kendra Allen | Craig Kenneth | Dorothy Johnson | Dr. Sara Kuburic | Dr. Joy | Coach Lee Wilson | Rachel Sussman
Jeff Guenther
If you’ve been on TikTok in the last several years, chances are you’ve come across Jeff Guenther. The licensed therapist, known as “therapyjeff” on TikTok, has a seemingly endless store of wisdom for millennials, Gen Z, and even Gen Alpha. But really, anyone can benefit from his gentle guidance.

His book, “Big Dating Energy: How to Create Lasting Love by Tapping Into Your Authentic Self”, is full of the emotionally deep and empathetic advice that his millions of social media followers know him for.
“There are plenty of fish in the sea!” “Just get over her already!” “I never liked him anyway!” Three unhelpful sentences you won’t find in “Big Dating Energy.” Instead, Jeff encourages readers to dive deep into their own psyches. He believes that the answers to some of life’s most pressing questions — “Why can’t I find true love?”, for example — can be found with a little self-work. With Jeff’s help, you don’t have to white-knuckle yourself through a breakup.
Best feature: Gentle and modern advice about dating in the digital age
Sierra & Sam
When you’re going through a break-up, you might want relevant advice from people who know exactly what you’re going through. As the hosts of the podcast “Just Break Up,” Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell are voices of reason for people experiencing heartbreak in the queer community. Listeners with questions about relationships, dating, and breakups can call into the show and hear Sierra and Sam’s fun yet firm insights.

Whether you’re in a queer relationship or not, many breakups have less to do with romance and more to do with family, friendships, and mental health. This is why Sierra and Sam answer questions with these topics in mind. They try to get a full understanding of each listener’s story before dispensing their advice. As their website says, “We don’t just tell you to break up (unless you really should).”
Expect honest, thoughtful answers to your relationship questions. And if you’re experiencing acute heartache, Sierra and Sam can put a humorous twist on their advice, as well.
Best feature: Insightful answers to relationship questions from the queer community
Claire Byrne
Hey, she’s nicknamed Claire the Heartbreak Coach for a reason! Relationship coach Claire Byrne specializes in breakups, making her a particularly useful resource when you’re in the throes of heartbreak.

She understands firsthand the effects heartbreak can have on one’s mind, attitude, and perspective. It’s so tempting to let yourself slip under the weight of pessimism, especially if the breakup is fresh. That’s why Claire focuses on the power of healing.
Introspection isn’t always easy in the aftermath of a breakup, especially when all you want to do is, say, smother your sorrows in ice cream. The Heartbreak Coach helps you combat this impulse with simple and structured healing processes. She’s most known for her five-step plan to get over a breakup, which includes purging your ex from your social media accounts.
Even Kourtney Kardashian has given Claire the Kardashian seal of approval, so you know her five-step plans have merit.
Best feature: Celebrity-approved heartbreak coach
Kendra Allen
We all need a shoulder to cry on in the days following a breakup. As the self-proclaimed “Break Up Bestie,” Kendra Allen just may be the ideal shoulder — and she doesn’t stop there. Not only is Kendra a kind-hearted bestie in the wake of a breakup, but she slowly but surely gets you on the healing track, too.

Breakups can leave you reeling, and Kendra aims to reel your fears and insecurities back in.
She offers courses and breakup worksheets to help you come to terms with your heartbreak. The Breakup Workbook has over 100 exercises to help you alter your perspective and see yourself with kindness.
Her best advice for people going through heartbreak? She repeatedly reminds her clients that no one is alone — and that heartbreak always heals eventually.
Best feature: Her Breakup Workbook with over 100 exercises
Craig Kenneth
Ah, Yoda. So wise, so helpful, so… fictional. Thank goodness for Craig Kenneth, the dating coach who calls himself the “relationship Yoda.” Using “the knowledge” — another Craig Kennethism — people can improve themselves and their dating skills. Self-improvement is the basis of Craig’s courses, workshops, and workbooks. If you can’t identify the reason(s) your relationship ended, you’ll never be able to fix them, right?

“I will help you gain the insight and understanding to figure out what went wrong, why your ex left or lost attraction, and what you can do to get her back,” he claims on his website. His Creative Healing Course should help you gain deeper insights into your attachment style and decision-making.
The more you understand yourself, the better off you and your future partner will be. Craig’s Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling gives him even more insight into his clients’ psyches. Wise, he is.
Best feature: Encouraging introspection and self-work
Dorothy Johnson
“Power” and “heartbreak” don’t exactly mix. In fact, you’ve probably felt powerless in the throes of heartbreak. Breakup coach Dorothy Johnson is dedicated to empowering people through those dark days of heartbreak.

Her “Get Over Your Ex” program can help people come to terms with their breakup, the reasons behind it, and the new gap in their life where a partner once was. Most of all, she empowers her clients to take their heartbreak into their own hands. With her help, you really can pick up the pieces of your heart and put it back together again.
“You can get over your ex in three months or less no matter how long your relationship was,” Dorothy says on her website. She approaches break-up recovery with empathy as well as tough love. “I want more for you,” she asserts. To Dorothy, “power” is the ability to pick yourself up and remember your worth in the wake of a breakup. Don’t push your pain under the rug; confront it in order to get your power back.
Best feature: Her breakup recovery program that empowers clients
Dr. Sara Kuburic
When you find yourself single for the first time in years, plenty of existential questions may be echoing through your head. What do I really need in my life? What kind of person do I want to be with? What kind of partner can I be? These are the wide-ranging questions that Dr. Sara Kuburic loves to answer.

“I’ve built a community of over 1.7 million individuals where I share tips and musings that normalize human experiences and encourage self-reflection,” she said on her website. As an existential psychotherapist, Dr. Kuburic helps people understand themselves better, which in turn helps them understand their partners — and ex-partners.
Self-understanding is key to learning from break-ups. When you can finally answer those existential questions about yourself, your needs, and your desires, you can finally recover from the heartbreak of your past and start down a healthier path.
Best feature: Helping you answer existential questions about yourself and your relationships
Dr. Joy Harden Bradford
“You can find me at the intersection of psychology and pop culture,” Dr. Joy says on her website. Phew! There’s no intersection I’d rather be at. When a breakup is fresh and it feels like no one can empathize, Dr. Joy reminds clients that they’re never alone. Her award-winning podcast, “Therapy for Black Girls,” guides young Black women through the ups and downs of life, including heartbreak.

I already turn to old episodes of my favorite TV dramas for comfort following a breakup, and it helps knowing that Dr. Joy understands why.
Too often, Black women are overlooked in the mental health space. That’s why Dr. Joy’s podcast, books, articles, and TV appearances are so important. They provide much-needed representation for Black girls whose feelings have never been prioritized. With Dr. Joy’s help, you can finally put yourself and your heart first. Only then can you start to heal from heartbreak.
Best feature: Dr. Joy’s podcast that puts the spotlight on Black women and their mental health
Coach Lee Wilson
Is it possible to pull a dying relationship back from the brink? Coach Lee Wilson certainly thinks so, and his 55,000-plus clients all over the world seem to agree. Coach Lee specializes in helping couples reunite after a breakup. He’s also dedicated to helping couples avoid separation or divorce in the first place.

The key to his process is “uncovering the science” behind breakups, as he claims on his website. “The scientific strategies I’m speaking of are honest and straightforward.” According to Coach Lee, the best way to reunite with an ex-partner is to remind them of what they’re missing, or what they’d lose if a breakup were to occur.
It’s important to note that the “getting your ex back” road isn’t always preferable or even safe, especially since what we want is so often different from what we need. But if you know that you and your ex just need some coaching to be happy and healthy, then Coach Lee’s route may be right for you.
Best feature: Helps people get back together with their exes
Rachel Sussman
As a licensed relationship expert and therapist, Rachel Sussman backs up her guidance with real expertise. More times than not, a relationship turns sour because of a lack of progression. For whatever reason, you and your partner are stalled, and neither of you can figure out why it’s happening or how to fix it. That’s where Rachel comes along. “By cultivating new skills and nurturing empowering habits, you’ll find the strength to ignite lasting transformations,” her website says.

Sometimes, all we need is a personal transformation to jump-start a stalled relationship, or to get into a new one. Rachel’s book “The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Healing From a Breakup or Divorce” takes the reader from the emotionally-chaotic time following a breakup to the thrilling early days of a new relationship.
Rachel’s approach to therapy is both gentle and firm. You can explore your own inner world with freedom and comfort while Rachel keeps you focused on the road ahead. Whether you’re grappling with a temporary split or a full-on divorce, Rachel has the tools to keep you positive and in control.
Best feature: Expert advice about breakups and divorce from a licensed therapist
There Are Countless Ways To Mend a Broken Heart
A breakup is a type of loss. After all, someone who played a major role in your life suddenly isn’t there anymore. Sometimes this loss is necessary for your own wellbeing, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt.
That’s why the tools recommended by each of these breakup experts are so important. It’s comforting knowing that I have them at my disposal whenever I need them. I can always open TikTok to hear Jeff Guenther’s wise words, and I can do self-work using one of Kendra Allen’s breakup workbooks. I can turn on Sierra & Sam or Dr. Joy’s podcasts to hear other people’s breakup stories. And if I need consistent professional help, I can seek out people like Dr. Sara and Rachel Sussman.
These professionals, as well as the other experts on this list, give us countless ways to mend our broken hearts. Most importantly, they help us gain new perspectives about our past, present, and future relationships. They help us finally move on.