The Scoop: Dr. Corey Allan is a love and relationship expert who both talks the talk and walks the walk. He earned his PhD in family therapy and became a licensed counselor, and then he put all he learned into practice in his own love life. As a result, he has been happily married for over 25 years. Dr. Corey later established Sexy Marriage as a helpful resource for committed partners around the world. Today, he delivers straightforward advice on love, relationships, and sex in his marriage-positive podcast, blog, book, and online courses. His blend of professional knowledge and relatable experiences make him an ideal guide for couples looking to grow happy, healthy relationships.
Many people find it difficult to talk about sex — even with an intimate partner. People can shy away from conversations about sex because it’s uncomfortable or because they don’t feel safe being honest about who they are and what they want. They’re still holding something back from their partner, and that can be unhealthy.
Without clear communication, couples often can’t achieve truly close and intimate connections. They can’t satisfy their partner’s deep desires if they don’t know those desires exist. Along the same lines, they can’t address sexual frustrations or intimacy issues until they open an honest dialogue with one another.
Dr. Corey Allan hopes to start that dialogue by providing a safe, judgment-free space where committed couples can learn about the virtues of intimacy. He has created the Sexy Marriage Academy to inform couples and inspire healthier relationship practices.
As a marriage and family therapist, Dr. Corey brings a wealth of expertise to this topic. As a devout Christian and husband, he brings a moral awareness and sensibility to conversations about sex. He addresses issues with a clinical eye and a compassionate heart.
Dr. Corey shares a marriage-positive message through carefully constructed online courses, ebooks, videos, and podcast episodes. These resources bring clarity to many sensitive issues and emphasize the importance of talking about sex with a respected and loving partner. His ultimate goal is to grow his Sexy Marriage Nation, so it can positively impact marriages around the world.
“We talk about pro-marriage issues and help couples have a better sex life,” he said. “We try to answer the questions there’s not many answers for under a Christian umbrella and under a marriage umbrella.”
A Husband-Wife Duo Give Clear Answers to Caller Questions
In the beginning, Dr. Corey called his relationship coaching business Simple Marriage, but he recently rebranded to highlight his focus on sexual topics from a relationship perspective. “People aspire to have sexy marriages,” he explained. “That’s at the core of what we do and what we advocate for.”
Since October 2011, Dr. Corey has hosted Sexy Marriage Radio, an informational podcast on relationships, love, and sex. This weekly show’s down-to-earth approach to sexual topics has gotten a lot of people talking. He doesn’t dance around emotional issues — he makes straightforward diagnoses and offers solutions in clear, concrete terms.
Dr. Corey used to share the airtime with professional therapists and colleagues, but now he has the unique pleasure of podcasting alongside his wife of 25 years. Pam originally came on as a temporary co-host; however, her relatable manner and incisive advice struck a chord with listeners. She draws from her own experience as a wife and lover to provide insight into what makes a strong, intimate marriage last.
“It’s fun for us to podcast together, but it’s also good for the audience because she gives the real person’s perspective,” he said.
Together, the couple answer questions callers leave as voicemail messages, and they delve into issues faced by newlyweds as well as more experienced couples. They speak to a diverse, international audience in the US, Canada, Europe, and Australia, and Dr. Corey said he does his best to provide a universally positive and empowering message that resonates with people of all backgrounds. While he brings his Christian values to the podcast, he includes people of all faiths in the Sexy Marriage Nation.
“I try to do this the way I live,” he said. “My faith and my beliefs work for me, but my job is not necessarily to bring others to that belief. I share my views, but I try not to be preachy.”
“Naked Marriage” Underscores the Power of Vulnerability
In the past several years, Dr. Corey has established himself as a trusted authority on issues relating to sex and marriage. He has counseled couples individually and through his podcast, and he has also written a self-help book to spread his message far and wide.
Published in 2016, “Naked Marriage” dispels common misconceptions about marriage and redefines the nature of true, lasting intimacy. Dr. Corey urges readers to embrace vulnerability in their relationships so they can connect with their partners emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
He outlines strategies for building intimacy in simple terms and advises couples based on years of experience as a counselor, coach, and relationship expert.
“’Naked Marriage’ is my perception of marriage in book form,” he said. “The premise is that if you can be real and naked in your relationship, and your partner does the same, that’s how you experience the best of marriage.”
Many readers heap praise on the self-help book and give Dr. Corey credit for tackling a tricky subject matter with professionalism and practicality. “I love that Dr. Allan doesn’t pull any punches,” said Micheal K. in an Amazon review. “He is willing to be vulnerable using his own life experiences to back up his refuting of the myths.”
Providing Resources to Support Couples Everywhere
The Sexy Marriage website takes couples on an information-rich journey toward better connections and healthier marriages. Dr. Corey lends his insights and support to help people grow as individuals, set realistic expectations, and take responsibility for their actions. He prompts men and women to consider what their role in the relationship is and how they may be contributing to conflict or disconnection.
Dr. Corey argues that sex issues and relationship struggles are never one-sided. Though his listeners, readers, and followers may feel more comfortable blaming their partners, Dr. Corey challenges them to look inward and change their own actions to end the strife. By taking a mature approach to sex and love, couples can deepen their relationships and create a solid foundation for the future.
“I believe marriage is designed to help us grow up,” he said. “Happiness and joy comes along with it, but that’s not the primary purpose of marriage.”
According to Dr. Corey, a strong marriage can be a vehicle that helps both individuals become more loving, compassionate, and kind. He enjoys opening people’s eyes to that potential and leading them to reach it.
“My work gives me a chance to help shape a conversation and spread a message that helps marriages across the globe,” he said. “Through my work, I can have an impact, and you can’t put a price on that. It’s so valuable.”
Dr. Corey’s Positive Message Resonates With Men & Women
Couples experiencing issues in the bedroom may be hesitant to talk about it, but silence is never the antidote, Dr. Corey said. He advocates for open communication about sex and relationship issues, and his pro-marriage resources give couples the tools they need to create a dialogue and deepen their connections.
Sexy Marriage has grown an international audience and started a movement to remove the taboo of discussing sex from the perspective of a committed, Christian couple. Dr. Corey Allan and his wife, Pam, have delved into important topics and given voice to issues that are often overlooked or ignored. In doing so, they have dramatically improved the quality of marriages for couples around the globe.
Dr. Corey Allan shares his message on multiple platforms and offers an abundance of resources to help couples take action, start talking, and reaffirm their love for one another.
“The goal of marriage is getting naked — and not just physically — it’s about being real with each other,” he said. “Marriage, at its core, exposes who we are.”