Understanding Your Energy Can Help You Form Stronger Relationships

One thing I’ve learned about romance is that a crush doesn’t hold the whole truth about who or what you’re attracted to. 

Crushes are complicated and often confusing, informed by both what we know about a person and what we hope is true about them. Crushes often find their foundation in fantasy, cultivating an image of a person before we have more information about who a person actually is.

I remember a crush I had on a guy in a college English class. The class was small, less than 10 people, and our lessons were seminar-style. All of us sat in a circle, discussing texts from “The Allegory of the Cave” to “Psychoanalysis.” 

This guy was the bookish kind of cute, the academic type, intense in his studies, and full of insightful ideas. It was undeniable– I had a crush. 

As the semester progressed, our small class decided to organize study sessions to prepare for the final essay and exam. I was so excited to have time with my crush, not restricted by the confines of a classroom. We met in the library and from the start, there was simply no spark with the guy I was crushing on.

While it’s common for students to be focused on their studies, the study sessions gave the impression my crush thought about few things other than school. He didn’t seem to want to engage on the same social level as the other students during these sessions, and it felt like our energies just didn’t match.

A crush can dissipate once you have more information about the person you’re crushing on. Maybe there’s no chemistry or you’re on different wavelengths—and there’s no harm in that. 

But self-knowledge can go a long way in aligning the people you initially feel attracted to with those with whom you have real compatibility. Larry Michel is a Love Restoration Coach and the founder of the Institute of Genetic Energetics and TheFourAnswers.com.

TheFourAnswers.com brings the insights and guidance of the Institute of Genetic Energetics to the internet. Larry’s model for understanding people’s unique personalities and relationship styles, called Genetic Energetics, can give singles and couples valuable insights into their past, present, and relationships.

Larry talked to us about Genetic Energetics and how it’s been helping strengthen relationships for nearly 40 years. 

“Genetic Energetics is a science that actually identifies the energetic frequencies that we vibrate,” Larry said. “Those frequencies are characterized in different ways, how we communicate, sexually engage, who we have chemistry with, and more.”

Blending Psychology & Spirituality

TheFourAnswers.com was born as part of the dating world. “Way back in 2003, we originally called ourselves Match Matrix,” Larry explained. “It was a system used in the dating landscape to enable people to match themselves with aligned partners.” 

At the time Larry was introduced to Match Matrix, he was business consulting and exercising a career in traditional therapy. With an educational background in psychology and social anthropology, he said it was always his plan to be a psychologist. 

His early partnership with Tony Robbins amplified the number of people he could reach and the degree of challenges singles and couples were navigating.

“When I was introduced to Match Matrix in 2003, it was the first time I worked with a system that would shorten the therapeutic process,” Larry said. “What sometimes would traditionally take months or years to get people through, we could do in 30 minutes to an hour.”

Larry said in his 30 years of coaching, consulting, and relationship building, Genetic Energetics has been the most effective approach to helping people understand their pasts and break free of negative beliefs that impact their relationships.

Genetic Energetics helps people understand themselves, their past relationships, their needs in future relationships, and how to deeply and compatibly connect in the present. Self-knowledge is one of the most powerful tools a person can have, and Genetic Energetics offers an insightful pathway to that knowledge.

Genetic Energetics Rewrites the Story

Genetic Energetics attends to the stories people carry. “The reality is, as human beings, we create all kinds of stories to describe what’s working and not working in our lives and in our relationships,” Larry said. “We experience blame, shame, resentment, and judgment, and most of it is based on false stories.”

Genetic Energetics helps people dismantle these stories and gain an understanding of who and what they are, undefined by these narratives. “It frees people up from what is holding them back, and gives them permission to embrace, acknowledge, honor, appreciate, and love characteristics different than our own.”

By gaining deeper self-understanding, people can communicate and connect with others on a deeper level. “Lots of people get into relationships with people that are different from them, but it doesn’t stop them from wanting those people to be the same,” Larry said. 

These differences can manifest in big ways, like how we communicate, but also in smaller ways. Larry said, “It’s looking at why you might move at different speeds, handle money differently, experience a sexual relationship differently.”

The ways people communicate, run their lives, handle money and sex– they’re all informed by the beliefs we carry. “All of those things are based on stories and experiences that contribute to those stories,” Larry said. “But those experiences are often misunderstood.”

Larry gave an example: Think of someone who you find tiring to be around. “Usually, these people are called energy vampires,” Larry said. The reality is, there’s no such thing. What there is are two different energetic frequencies that bombard each other, repel each other, and wear them down. Or think about a person with whom you often have painful misunderstandings.”

Larry said people can experience frequency differences in a variety of relationships, from romantic to familial. “It may be your brother, your sister, a parent, or your beloved who vibrate at a different genetic energy frequency,” he explained.

Genetic Energetics posits that every person has a unique energetic makeup, and this makeup interacts differently with other kinds of makeup. The system is a unique way of understanding personality and compatibility and offers a pathway to forming stronger and lasting relationships.

“Now, just because we vibrate on different frequencies, that doesn’t mean we can’t be together or have a relationship,” Larry said. “Instead, we figure out a way to accept, honor, acknowledge, and accommodate those differences without letting our stories inform our way.”

TheFourAnswers.com Helps People Forge Harmonious Connections

Singles and couples can begin exploring Genetic Energetics through TheFourAnswers.com. The website offers an extensive library of blogs and articles about relationships, attachment, and dating, along with coaching resources.

The complimentary Personal Energetic Profile gives you a blueprint for connection in all your relationships. Users will enter answers to a few simple questions, like their birthday and relationship status, to receive four unique Lifestyle Traits, their Attraction type (chemistry), and their Personality Modifiers.

The in-depth report can give individuals insight into how they function within relationships, and how they can interact with and enjoy people who vibrate differently to maintain the healthiest possible connections. TheFourAnswers.com powered by Genetic Energetics is about giving people the information they need to strengthen the relationships they value most.

By letting go of harmful stories and stepping into self-acceptance, people can find empowerment through Larry’s approach. 

“Although our system has descriptive labels, I’m very against using the labels to project in advance a behavior or compatibility,” Larry said. “If we label people and are too busy trying to fit them into a box, we never discover who they actually are or why they have shown up in our lives. That next person who gets our attention may be one of the greatest gifts we are ever given. Knowing enough about ourselves and others to discover the gift is why this system is so valuable.”