The Scoop: Matchmaker Jacqueline Nichols believes that singles struggle to find love for two main reasons: They don’t have realistic expectations of what their partners should be like, or they haven’t opened themselves up to finding love. Those are barriers that she helps clients overcome through her professional coaching and matchmaking platform, Discover Love Matches. Over the last decade, Jacqueline has helped men and women from around the country identify what they need in a partner, communicate more effectively, and find real love.
Jacqueline Nichols’ experience as a single mom getting back into the dating scene may sound familiar to many daters. Juggling her children and professional obligations while finding time for a dating life proved difficult. So she decided to throw caution to the wind and put up a Facebook post that said, “I’m free on Valentine’s Day. Want to go out?”
Had she been an actress in a romantic comedy, the perfect guy would have responded to her post. But, instead, she ended up having a pleasant date but with no romantic spark. That date, though, didn’t realize that she wasn’t interested. He texted Jacqueline repeatedly until she had to ask him to stop.
Jacqueline knew he was a great guy — they’re still friends — but he had no idea he was committing significant dating taboos.
“People have no idea how to communicate or how they come across. And even great people are messing this up all the time,” she told us.
So Jacqueline decided to use her dating experience and her intuitive, spiritual-minded personality to help others by launching Discover Love Matches. Now she works with matchmaking and coaching clients to identify compatible partners and find ways to communicate more appropriately with potential matches.
After more than a decade, Jacqueline knows she’s found her calling. Through Discover Love Matches, she helps singles uncover what’s been holding them back romantically. Before people can join the platform, Jacqueline screens them to ensure they’ll be a good fit.
In addition to matching, Jacqueline also coaches clients through the entire dating process.
“Some people want a personalized process, while others want to do it on their own. And other daters are less guarded with our clients because they know we’ve decided that they’re genuine,” she said.
Developing a Platform That Pre-Screens Singles
Discover Love Matches is a refreshing alternative to other dating platforms because Jacqueline personally approves each member. That means no dater has to contend with worries about bots or catfishing, and every member is a genuine person.
If someone wants to become a member of Discover Love Matches, they first fill out a four-page client discovery form and decide what level of service they want. With a membership, they can start searching for matches on the platform on their own. Some also opt for a package that includes matchmaking and coaching from Jacqueline, and premium memberships never expire.
“When someone joins, we’ll talk on the phone or in person. We preapprove people, and we know who everyone is. That gives our users peace of mind, especially in the online dating climate,” she said.
Once members are approved, they can set up a dating profile and browse the other singles on the site. They can also message other users who catch their attention.
Those who want more advice from Jacqueline, without committing to one-on-one coaching, can take her course 90 Days To Find Love. The course covers four major topics, including preparing to date, dating, communicating effectively, and finding effective matches.
One of the course’s key concepts is being intentional, which is focusing on what you want and actively striving for it. For instance, Jacqueline doesn’t advise people to date “just for fun,” but instead focus on building long-lasting connections.
“So many people are missing opportunities. Now is the perfect time to do some personal growth work so they can have the positivity to attract what they really want,” Jacqueline said.
Professional Coaching Focuses on Pairing Clients with Similar Goals
The professional coaching arm of Jacqueline’s practice offers peace of mind to clients who have struggled to find love. She has clients from their 20s to their 80s who are tired of dating around. They don’t want to wait for love to find them, but instead want to proactively change their lives.
One of her most popular services is her Angel Session, through which Jacqueline’s spirit guide helps advise her who to match.
“My clients had been begging me for years to do angel sessions. They’d ask me, where’s my person? My angel will tell me who to match them with. I introduce them, and sometimes they’re married a year later,” she said.
As a coach, Jacqueline asks her clients to be both more realistic about potential matches and to invite more positivity into their lives.
“Clients often need to change their dating style and expectations to improve their success rate,” she said.
Jacqueline finds that addressing what clients are really looking for in life and addressing their baggage can make a huge difference in their lives. And all of that takes place well before they find love.
“My clients who are single and searching are dealing with obstacles and past hurt, but they’re becoming more joyful, too,” she said.
Jacqueline shared the story of one of her clients, a man in his 60s, who took her advice to heart. The man was seeking love, and she matched him with a woman he eventually married.
“When I saw him on his wedding day, I said, ‘You look like you lost 10 years.’ He was one of my favorite clients, but he’d also given up on love. To see him so relaxed, alive, and valued at his wedding, it made everything worth it,” she said.
Discover Love Matches: Helping Daters Improve Their Lives
According to Jacqueline, most singles aren’t realistic about who would be a good match for them, or they aren’t actually open to finding love. The first type of single can’t identify a compatible partner. They may be letting their attractions guide them — or they are unrealistic about what a relationship should look like.
To overcome that hurdle, Jacqueline advises singles to be realistic about their own lives.
“Think about where you are in life and who would be a complement to that. People get caught up in age. If you’re close to retirement and want to travel, you want to find someone who wants that, too,” Jacqueline said. “If you want to have children, you need to find someone who wants children. That seems obvious, but it’s not.”
She said she often sees singles who are so bogged down by the disappointments in their lives that they can’t see opportunities to find love.
“It’s about being in the right place to receive their person. So many people have barriers up. If someone’s not open to letting go of their baggage, there’s no way they can make a new match,” she said.
Jacqueline also said many singles don’t prioritize finding love — something she thinks will change after the COVID-19 pandemic. She believes that those who have been isolated and alone will focus on what really matters: connection with others.
“People who have been procrastinating are finally thinking that it would be nice to have someone special in their lives. This situation puts everything in perspective. What could have been more important than finding someone you could share life with?” Jacqueline said.