The Scoop: Over the last 10 years, Tony D., of Absolute Ability, has made a name for himself as one of the world’s leading dating and confidence coaches for men. Word of his flirtation skills has spread far and wide, and men have traveled to Canada to learn at his side. He has traveled to see them as well, instilling confidence in men in six countries and dozens of cities around the world. Tony recently expanded his month-long mentorship program to include remote mentorship in well-populated cities throughout the world. The dating coach leads by example in his hands-on, results-oriented programs geared toward shy single guys. Tony’s main message to men in the dating scene is that all it takes to become a masterful conversationalist and seducer is a little courage and a lot of practice.

In 2005, a bestselling book made shock waves in the dating scene by giving men a behind-the-scenes look at the underground culture of master seducers. “The Game” championed the pickup artist culture and sent a message of empowerment and affirmation to single men the world over.

One of those men was Tony D., an insecure and inexperienced dater in Canada. When he read “The Game,” he realized he didn’t have to let his insecurities hold him back. He decided to practice approaching women and hone his flirtation skills one conversation at a time.

Photo of Tony D., Founder of Absolute Ability

Tony D. founded Absolute Ability to teach single men how to build confidence, approach women, and get dates.

Tony challenged himself to overcome his social anxieties — even when the thought of talking to a beautiful woman gave him a panic attack — and become the best possible version of himself.

Every time he flirted with a woman, he proved to himself that it wasn’t as intimidating, dangerous, or difficult as he’d imagined. Women were receptive to him, and he enjoyed talking to them. The more he did it, the more comfortable he became, and the more positive responses he got. By 2009, Tony had joined online forums of pickup artists and started mentoring men hoping to become more skilled and competent daters.

His reputation as a male dating expert grew from there, and he began writing self-help articles and books to share his insights with single men struggling to get a date. He also hosted confidence-building bootcamps and one-on-one coaching sessions to further enlighten and empower men. Today, he travels around the world showing men how to attract high-caliber women and become more confident in any social setting. He plans to move to Europe in the spring.

“I could do this job anywhere in the world,” the dating coach said. “By traveling with my clients, I have the opportunity to teach men to have confidence so women are more attracted to them.”

Remote Mentorships Get Men Out of Their Comfort Zones

Tony founded Absolute Ability, a Canada-based dating coaching business, over 10 years ago. At that time, few professionals were in the industry solely to teach and guide men. He pioneered confidence-building techniques and mentorship programs to teach single men how to get results in the dating scene.

In the last decade, Tony has taught men in six countries and dozens of cities, including Bangkok, Phoenix, Los Angeles, Montreal, and London. He is willing to travel wherever a client needs him, and he has even begun offering travel mentorships where he and his client visit major cities and tackle the dating arena together.

“A mentorship with Absolute Ability will be an experience you will never forget. It will change you. You will grow. You will succeed.” — Tony D. of Absolute Ability

These personalized coaching sessions can last anywhere between two and four weeks and take clients on unforgettable excursions in Europe, Asia, or Central America. Tony said he has plans to run international coaching programs in Poland, the Ukraine, and other Slavic countries in the coming year.

“Traveling can push men out of their comfort zones,” he said. “It’s powerful stuff because it helps them get over their anxiety of traveling and flirting at the same time.”

Anyone hoping to improve their social skills and flirtation skills can join Tony on the adventure of a lifetime. Tony and his clients meditate together every morning before sightseeing during the day and tackling the dating scene at night. The dating coach is there to provide support, insight, and encouragement every step of the way.

“I like to immerse guys in an environment where they can become comfortable talking to women. That’s one of the reasons I like these trips,” he told us. “It gives me a lot more time to get results and do deeper with them.”

How Flirting Abroad Changes Perspectives

Absolute Ability’s immersive mentorship program has yielded some great results for men who trust the process and take Tony’s advice. His clients learn to trust their instincts, communicate clearly, rebound from rejection, and understand female psychology in hands-on coaching and feedback sessions.

This professional dating coach not only talks the talk, however; he walks the walk by flirting and picking up women while his client watches him work. Whether he’s navigating the downtown scene in his hometown or a foreign city, Tony’s self-possession and positive attitude sets a good example for his clients.

Tony is at the forefront of a masculinity movement that backs up singles men and characterizes approaching women as brave, not creepy.

Singles have traveled thousands of miles to learn from Tony and gain experience in the dating scene. Some of them face crippling anxiety issues that hold them back in multiple areas of life. Working with a professional dating coach can help singles come into their own and take action to get results.

“A lot of it comes down to overcoming your fear,” he said. “I’ve seen men have intense anxiety about talking to women. It’s the same response you’d have to facing a bear. It’s fight or flight. But in reality, it’s not life or death. Everyone is going to be friendly to you, if you just have the courage to say hi.”

Tony D. Trains His Clients to Be More Confident

Tony took control of his love life in his mid-20s, and now he offers single men everywhere his support as a time-tested wingman. By launching remote mentorship programs, he has gained experience navigating the international dating scene and helped men from all walks of life come into their own. His confidence-building advice and guidance has led countless men to transform the way they see themselves and the way they interact with women.

As the dating industry grows, Tony continues to adapt his techniques and expand his reach around the industry. “There’s so much dating advice out there now,” he said. “There are so many schools of thought, but a lot of it is geared toward women. I want to reach men and have them see dating as a positive, not a negative.”

Tony takes his clients into the field because he knows you can only learn so much from reading books. Changing your dating life starts with changing your dating habits and expectations. This dating expert pushes singles to put themselves out there, go outside their comfort zones, and realize they can have success simply by believing in themselves.

“Dating success is all about confidence, and that’s true for both men and women. I would like to give more single women dating advice,” he said, “but I think that might blow up the internet.”

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