The Scoop: Tantra Speed Date is on a mission to turn the dating world on its head by blending mindfulness with relationship-building skills in its engaging speed dating events. Participants at these evening outings can enjoy a safe, calming space where they can talk about their feelings and explore deep connections. Tantra Speed Date is currently active in 25 cities in the U.S., Canada, and the U.K., and it continues to grow as more singles seek its quality-driven, heart-guided services.
When Karina attended a Tantra Speed Date (TSD) event, she discovered a mindful community focused on healing and personal growth — and she also met the love of her life.
Oren was her first date of the night, and their chemistry was instantaneous. At TSD events, women show their interest by taking a bead out of a pouch around their necks and putting it in the man’s pouch, and Karina happily gave Oren a bead at the end of the night.
As Karina and Oren’s relationship grew, they embraced the perspective and openness with which they met at TSD. Oren proposed in the Tantra Mountains, and Karina said yes. “Thank you so much for helping to bring this love together,” she wrote to the Tantra Speed Date team. “Keep up the gifting of the crucial medicine that you are sharing with the world.”
Tantra Speed Date aims to cultivate a loving atmosphere in its singles-friendly gatherings. These events are different from typical speed dating events because they involve soulful exercises, including embracing, eye-gazing, and dancing with partners to create a special bond.
“The idea is that Tantra Speed Date is about more than just who you meet in the room,” said Guy Shahar, Co-Founder of The Tantra Institute and originator of Tantra Speed Date. “It can really shift something in your life.”
Guy and his team of 15+ event facilitators have changed the way singles view both themselves and their relationships by incorporating mindfulness and compassion into every introduction. Instead of treating dating as if it were a game or a race, these relationship experts encourage people to take every conversation seriously and create a deep human connection in a short period of time.
“I would love to see more dating events incorporate the kinds of teaching and lessons that we do because it benefits people so much more,” Guy said. “They get to take something away from the experience independent of their matches.”
Building a Network in 25 Cities and Counting
Tantra Speed Date appeals to singles from all walks of life. Some are looking for a physical connection, while others seek a partner of the mind, but they all find comfort in the holistic and welcoming energy in the room. The event incorporates optional tantra and mindfulness exercises into the traditional speed dating format and gives couples an activity to strengthen their bonds.
After every TSD event, the team asks participants to give feedback on the experience. Guy said he has read over 7,000 feedback forms himself and taken note of what singles want and what exercises resonate with them.
“The feedback we’ve gotten is that people feel really safe at the event, and comfortable communicating with each other,” Guy said. “I think the clear communication and consent is a big part of that.”
In 2018, TSD expanded from six cities to 20 cities. By the summer of 2019, TDS reached 25 cities worldwide.
Today, Guy heads up a team of over 15 Certified TSD Facilitators who work all around the world. Guy spends most of his time on the road attending events across the country to ensure they uphold the standards and support the philosophy set by Tantra Speed Date.
When Guy created Tantra Speed Date, he had no idea it would spread to 25 cities one day. He said the growth happened organically as people would reach out and ask if TSD events could come to their city. Wherever he and his team saw there was an interest, they worked hard to bring Tantra Speed Date to meet it.
Today, Tantra Speed Date brings greater emotional awareness and mindful energy to singles from Asheville to Ventura, and it continues to grow and create heartfelt connections between people from all walks of life.
“Tantra Speed Date has evolved,” Guy said. “It’s more efficient, clearer, and a much stronger event.”
Featured on the Voyeuristic TV Show “Sex Life”
Tantra Speed Date has turned heads with its innovative approach to speed dating, and many journalists and media outlets have been quick to satisfy people’s curiosity about the events.
Lisa Ryan, a senior writer at The Cut, attended a TSD event in 2017 and said she was struck by the serenity and tenderness on people’s faces as they leaned on each other, sometimes literally. “At the end of the night, one man told the group it was the first event he’d attended in New York where no one complained,” she wrote.
Blogger Hannah Berry George said she enjoyed the chill atmosphere of a TSD event in New York City. “It allows us to laugh at the awkwardness of it all,” she wrote about the event, “and, perhaps, cunningly, let down our defensive walls, allowing people in and deepening the connection.”
Recently, TV producers have even approached Tantra Speed Date in hopes of bringing their relationship insights to a broader audience. An Epix TV show called “Sex Life” featured Tantra Speed Date in an episode that aired on June 28. “Sex Life” is a voyeuristic documentary series that focuses on erotic experiences and sexual awakenings.
Tantra Speed Date events are more about relationships than sex, but they often create intimacy and foster real human connections that carry over into the bedroom.
The “Sex Life” producers appreciated TSD’s honest and healing approach to love, and the show gave viewers insight into how tantra can transform the way couples interact.
“The response has been phenomenal. People really love the segment, and we had a huge screening party in New York City,” Guy said. “It was a great experience, and the producers really did an amazing job capturing the heart of the event.”
Healing Events Boast a 95% Match Rate
Tantra Speed Date events have made a difference in many people’s lives over the years. Singles have left these events with more than just a handful of phone numbers — they’ve found life-long friends and soul mates in the course of the night. TSD currently boasts a 95% match rate at its events.
The success stories include couples who have gotten married and singles who have regained their self-confidence. It’s inspirational to hear these people talk about what they experienced and how it impacted their lives.
“I met the love of my life through TSD and have been opened to the wonderful healing powers of tantra,” said Catherine, a Denver resident. “I was hesitant to go that night, but I am so glad I did.”
“I now feel that I have a much deeper understanding of what it means to be a man in a relationship,” said Justin, who attended TSD classes and events in New York.
Guy said many attendees in the past have given positive feedback about the ripple effect Tantra Speed Date can have. Even if they didn’t meet their partner at a TSD event, they credit its mindful mantra with helping them change their outlook and attract better date prospects.
“I think that’s why so many attendees come back again and again,” Guy said. “I am constantly humbled by how many people tell us how TSD has impacted them. They start to attract better partners, and often experience more connection in all their relationships.”
The Tantra Speed Date team isn’t satisfied with simply matching up individuals for one night — they endeavor to create a more moving and transformative experience that facilitates mindfulness, passion, and love.
Tantra Speed Date Gently Brings People Together
Tantra Speed Date encourages singles to get to know one another on a deeper level. The unique format of the events help participants take down their emotional walls and grow closer together. Many relationships have blossomed during the course of these tranquil evenings.
Karina and Oren aren’t the only ones who have sparked a connection at TSD events. Many individuals and couples have come away with a more rejuvenated spirit, open mind, and compassionate heart. Their support has allowed Tantra Speed Date to break down barriers and establish a fast-growing network of mindful people.
“People keep asking for more events,” Guy said. “They email asking for an Advanced Tantra Speed Date or a couples version. Often, after this experience, they’re also more curious about tantra. Now The Tantra Institute offers several more advanced classes so they can continue their studies and become ever-better at relating.”
As interest in tantra classes and speed dating events has grown, Guy and his team have been able to expand to cities across the country. Looking to the future, the team intends to build on its momentum and bring its message of love, awareness, and acceptance to people around the world.
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