The Scoop: Executive Relationships and Consultant and Coach Spike Spencer launched Don’t Kill Your Date (and Other Cooking Tips) as a cheeky yet informational resource for men hoping to strengthen their relationships. He offers his cooking knowledge and dating experiences to an online audience, which has grown into a thriving community. Spike expanded into the business world by bringing his relationship insights to sales teams, marketing companies, and other influential groups. Through the Relationship Sales Dynamics™ program, Spike seeks to redefine what it means to be successful in love, life, and business.

Spike Spencer wears a lot of different hats in his life. He’s a professional consultant and public speaker. He has worked as a voice actor and real estate investor. He developed dynamic online dating and cooking resources on Don’t Kill Your Date (and Other Cooking Tips). He has also been a spokesperson for Fortune 500 companies. However, his most important role is as a father to Declan Spencer.

Recently, a Netflix docu-series called “Chicken Soup for the Soul’s Being Dad” featured Spike’s unexpected journey to fatherhood in his 40s. Spike married Kimberly MacKenzie in 2014 and became a father on July 28, 2017. His wife is 19 years younger than he is, so he brings a unique perspective to falling in love and starting a family later in life.

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Spike Spencer founded Don’t Kill Your Date (and Other Cooking Tips) as a food-inspired dating resource.

Spike gave candid interviews to the Netflix crew and allowed viewers to get an up-close look at the transformational experience of becoming a father.

“It’s touching, silly, heartwarming and will make you laugh and cry,” he said. “It just came out, and it’s getting great reviews.”

In the last year, Spike’s life has completely changed, and he cites his son and wife as his inspiration for growing his consultant career. He and Kimberly, who is a certified High Performance Coach and Founder of Crown Yourself, both upped their coaching games by earning their certifications in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, and Time-Line Therapy™ in the last year.

“I am constantly pursuing new strategies and bringing them to my clients,” Spike said. “I have decided to really ramp up my message and expand my teachings so I can help more people.”

A New Book Explores the Recipe for Dating Success

In addition to his work as a consultant, Spike has made waves as an internationally bestselling speaker and author. He is set to publish “FoodGame: A Man’s Ultimate Recipe For Dating Success” in October 2018. This book combines Spike’s dating knowledge with a dash of humor, a pinch of sage advice, and actual recipes that couples can try and enjoy together.

“The trick is in becoming the man women want to go see,” he said. “That is what the book is all about. Read the book, up your game, stay home, and sizzle.”

In the last 10 years, Spike’s website has taught thousands of men to become more engaging daters by getting in the kitchen and cooking up a memorable experience, and now his book will further expand on this idea.

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Don’t Kill Your Date teaches men to shake things up by cooking for their dates at home.

Spike’s humorous, inviting, and one-of-a-kind take on the dating scene has gotten many men talking and cooking up something special. In his book, seminars, and one-on-one consultations, he argues that the recipe for romantic success is ultimately simple and easy to whip up if you have the right ingredients on hand.

“My entire dating philosophy has been simplifying (or hacking, if you will) the dating process by having women come to your place and you cook for them,” he said.

“This man is wonderful!” said a man who attended one of Spike’s seminars in Los Angeles. “He has lots of hilarious stories to tell and so many wonderful cooking ideas. He for sure knows what he is talking about.”

Building a Community of Masterful Men on Facebook

Spike mentors single men through the dating process with many useful and practical resources. He recently launched The FoodGame Mastermind Group to support men who are looking to improve their cooking skills and create romance in their everyday lives.

This group supports men in the dating scene with an hour of weekly group coaching, live cooking training and recipes, exclusive access to FoodGame products, and a community of men going through the course together. Spike said the fun and camaraderie can be just as influential as the training sessions. He posts free, instructional content and hosts a dynamic discussion about what being a good date means in this day and age.

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Spike’s humorous take on love, life, and cooking helps daters improve themselves.

“For less than a dinner-for-two at the Olive Garden, I can teach you to never take a date to the Olive Garden.” Spike said emphatically. “You want to be the man women drive to see? Then join now.”

Spike is also launching a YouTube series and upgrading his social media channels to share more engaging content with a broader audience around the world. He said he wants to help as many people as he can as quickly and effectively as he can, and he sees the power of the internet as an ally in that effort.

In the coming year, Spike and Kim plan to start hosting couples retreats full of educational lessons and fun activities. These retreats would invite couples to leave their old routines behind and enjoy a romantic experience in a beautiful setting.

Whether he’s hosting a live cooking session or posting an instructional webinar, Spike delivers sound advice based on decades of experience in the dating scene.

“I see the dating industry changing as more and more people look inside themselves first for happiness and satisfaction,” he said. “When singles stop looking for someone to complete them and start seeking people who enhance their already-awesome selves, that is when the big shift will occur.”

Training Programs Blend Relationship & Business Insights

As an Executive Relationship and Business Consultant, Spike is always working on something new to grow his reach and help more people. He recently finished a speaking tour in Australia where he has become a well-known coach, and he also offered his insights as a featured speaker for a You Asked! Good Men Answered Virtual Summit. The two-hour recording as well as many of Spike’s other public speeches and presentations are available for free on his website.

Spike further meshes the dating and business worlds together with his coaching as a licensed and certified B.A.N.K.™ Trainer. B.A.N.K.™ is the only methodology in the world, scientifically validated, to predict a person’s buying behavior in 90 seconds or less using the #1 personality sales training. By cracking a person’s B.A.N.K.™ code, you get to know them on a values level. You can also crack your code for free and learn something about yourself.

“This is valuable not just for the sales aspect, which is incredible, but the power this gives in relationships is staggering,” he said. “In sales, presentations are missing the mark 96% of the time, because you are basically not speaking the same values language of your prospect. Same goes for your dating.”

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Spike can teach people to crack the code to business success with a simple personality report card.

Spike can teach men and women how to make a compelling pitch to a buyer, a client, or date by understanding basic personality traits and relationship dynamics.

He has developed a training program called Relationship Sales Dynamics™ to succinctly explain what’s going on in people’s heads and how to connect with them by understanding their thoughts and emotions. Spike’s system, which he calls Clear-Connect-Close, taps into the power of human relationships to produce staggering results in the business world.

Spike has run several businesses, made millions in real estate investments, and, in the process, learned how to create valuable relationships that help everyone move forward. His insights into how to leverage relationship-building into a successful business strategy has inspired self-starters with a variety of professional skills and backgrounds.

“So far, all the new directions and projects are getting rave reviews,” Spike said. “Relationship Sales Dynamics™ will tear down the wall between business and social lives, enhancing both for the betterment of all. I am looking forward to seeing the amazing things that will happen soon.”

Spike Develops a Blueprint for Living to the Fullest

When Spike became a father in 2017, everything changed for him. He now has a new perspective on life and new goals for the future, and that has spurred him to launch dynamic coaching resources for people facing challenges in their personal and professional lives.

Spike doesn’t hold to the notion that people can’t “have it all.” He trains his clients to maintain a thriving career and a happy family by developing essential skills and mindsets that lead to overall success. He believes that cultivating relationships and building communication skills can create opportunities to grow, learn, and excel in all areas of life.

“I am looking to work with positive, success-minded individuals and companies that understand the value of the whole person,” he said. “My main goal is to bring a sense of satisfaction and success to people in their lives by merging their business and relationships sides into one cohesive juggernaut of fulfillment.”

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