Whenever I ask my friend what she has planned for date night, and she responds “Oh nothing, just Netflix and chill,” there’s nothing else that needs to be said –– I already know what’s about to go down.
The phrase “Netflix and chill” is a slang term used to imply casual sexual activity or an invitation for a hookup. We’re in a period where you can say less to get what you want –– and yes, that includes the bedroom.
Netflix and chill is a shortcut to expressing sexual interest in a person you’re in a relationship with or not.
Netflix and chill is a relaxing way for people to bond and have some fun without all the pressure of going out. In this article, I’ll dive into all the nuances that make Netflix and chill what it is and how relevant it is still for people’s dating lives.
The Term’s Origin Story
Netflix and chill was first used in 2009 by a Twitter user who had the genuine intention to stream Netflix and chill for the rest of the evening. It wasn’t until 2014 that Black Twitter used the phrase as a joke, hinting that Netflix is the perfect way to actually get intimate with someone.
The concept of Netflix and chill is that you invite a date over to watch Netflix, then things start to heat up and, well, let’s just say the night ends with Netflix watching you. This spicy phrase is now considered a popular way people like to date and spend their Friday nights.
Why It Became Popular
Netflix and chill became such a popular phrase due to its relatability and straightforward meaning. Since 2015, singles have found it easier to send over a Netflix and chill invitation to hook up compared to beating around the bushes over various dates.
There’s no need to worry about a crowded bar or restaurant to talk and get closer on a deeper level.
Regardless if you’ve just started dating or are in a committed relationship, Netflix and chill is a great date activity if you’re looking for something more casual and intimate.
Pop Culture References
When Netflix and Chill started to become more popular, meme culture and social media picked up on the new trend and made the humorous phrase even more catchy.
It even got to a point where Netflix itself decided to join in on the fun, even posting GIFs of the phrase on social media.
Fast Forward to COVID-19 & Streaming Becomes Mainstream
The COVID-19 pandemic has shaken things up for singles, and we’re still feeling the effects. Streaming became a much more popular dating activity, and the interest in Netflix and chill skyrocketed.
Now, dinner and a movie at home are a popular date night activity.
Evolution & Trends
Let me make this clear –– there are a lot of ways to chill, it doesn’t just mean one thing. Netflix and chill paved the way for singles to get more creative with how they connect in the digital age.
The phrase has evolved and eventually led to more cozy dating and low-pressure interactions that have gone off to even other platforms such as Hulu and Chill.
Creative Ways to Chill
I like to think that tapping into your creativity to find new ways you and your boo can chill together is a fun opportunity. You get to spice things up. And discover new ways y’all like to chill together.
One exciting way to chill at home is by buying a projector that will create a big-screen experience that you get in movie theaters right at home. Try to elevate the experience by creating a theme for the night. Halloween or Christmas-themed decorations and cocktails that can help y’all get in the spirit.
And if you feel like you’ve exhausted your Netflix library, don’t be afraid to explore other options. Other streaming platforms like Hulu, Peacock, or even Amazon Prime offer great options that can keep your chill nights still fresh and exciting.
Is Netflix a Good Wingman?
Depending on what you’re looking for –– absolutely. It’s a casual way to get to know and hang out with someone. Not only is it budget-friendly, but it’s a great conversation starter.
I remember my boyfriend and I could only afford Netflix and chill dates in college, where we had intimate time to talk and didn’t have to worry about expensive outings.
Even though the term was popularized over a decade ago, it’s still very much relevant today. Especially considering that hookup culture is growing more and more every day. The appeal of relaxed, at-home dates has only strengthened why Netflix and chill is here to stay.
5 Tips for Having a Successful Chill
I think we can all agree that Netflix and chill is a great opportunity to spend time with someone in a low-pressure and fun way.
But things can get complicated when miscommunication and monotonous routine hangouts start to take over the relationship.
Understanding the potential conflicts that may come up with Netflix and chill hangouts can help you navigate or even avoid sticky and awkward situations.
1. Communicate Your Intentions Early
Like all relationships, communication is key and for Netflix and chill hangouts, it’s even more important to communicate what kind of vibe you both are going for. Is it a friendly, casual hangout or a romantic gesture? These are the kinds of questions that you want to ask earlier on.
It’s never fun getting your heart broken or being on the other side doing the heartbreaking. While Netflix and chill are usually associated as hookup language, people can still get emotionally involved throughout the night.
People should share their intentions from the beginning to ensure that everyone is on the same page and if things do change, make sure to communicate when feelings do arise.
2. Choose a Romantic Movie
You can never go wrong with a romantic movie for a Netflix and chill hangout. What’s a better way to set the mood? So, find a movie that you consider to be romantic.
Some great options are “The Notebook” (if you’re OK with crying a little bit), “La La Land,” and “Crazy Rich Asians.”
You could also pick a comedy to lighten up the mood, such as “Set it Up” or “Crazy, Stupid, Love.” The general rule is that it doesn’t matter what movie you end up with, as long as you both can enjoy the film and not be too distracted for a make out session in between.
3. Prepare for the Date
Planning for your date is a crucial component of how the evening will turn out. It may sound a bit far-fetched, but truly it will make a difference. Whether you’re on a couch in an apartment or on a truck bed in the backyard, you should have everything ready for your date night, make it cozy and romantic.
My first Netflix and chill experience was great because he made sure to make me feel comfortable from the very beginning. Little things like cleaning up the space or offering a variety of selections can ensure that the evening goes smoothly.
And you can always tell when someone is unprepared. There’s usually little for them to say, and awkwardness takes over. I’d advise you to make sure you prepare for your Netflix and chill encounters, because staring at each other and asking “So what do you want to do next?” for two minutes straight is not cool my friend.
4. Make Snacks for Your Snack
Believe it or not –– your snack game is important during a Netflix and chill hangout. You know the saying, “A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach,” right? Well, there’s another saying that says, “A way to successfully Netflix and chill is by providing great snacks.” OK, I just made that up –– but you get the point!
Make sure you provide great snacks for you and your date to snack on in between. And if you don’t know what to get, don’t sweat it, just ask!
Asking your date what their favorite snacks are shows that you’re a caring person and putting in effort to make the evening a memorable one. And don’t be afraid to get fun and fancy with your snacks. Make theme food or a nice charcuterie board if you’re really trying to impress your date.
5. Pause to Get Consent
Asking for consent is not a one-time thing when you Netflix and chill. Consent should be an ongoing conversation where both partners feel free to express their boundaries and adjust them at any time. Because, as we all know, feelings change.
Even if you talked about it beforehand, if the mood changes, be prepared to just watch movies and skip the “and chill.” Taking breaks to check in with each other will not only show the other person how thoughtful you are, but also that you respect them.
Respecting boundaries is key, and being able to pause or change course ensures that the night is comfortable and enjoyable for everyone.
“Netflix and Chill” Dates Keep Things Casual
Netflix and chill is a nice casual date idea, but make sure you’re on the same page with your partner about how you both want to “chill.” The night goes a lot better that way. With open communication and proper planning, Netflix and chill can turn into a memorable occasion for both of you.
Whether it’s just about watching a movie, sharing laughs, or getting lucky by going to third base, the ultimate goal is to create a space where you can connect with someone and have a great time.
